A couple of weekends ago, I was at a wedding and engaged in conversation with many different women. Some I knew, others were fresh faces to me, but we all seemed to have one thing in common. We like to look beautiful. Every girl does. We spend many hours making sure that our darling little selves warrant a "beautiful". Heaven forbid we get graced with a "you're so cute" compliment. Note to men: Women like to be be beautiful...not cute. (Please tell me that you already knew that. I don't even have to ask, right? You know that by now. I have all the confidence in the world that you do.) Although on some days, I am sure we would take any positive feedback that we can get, and so "cute" might not get you in trouble on the off chance that we are having an off day. But who wants to chance it? ANYWAYS, getting back to this particular event...I quickly became shocked at the conversation as I did not realize that so many women are faking it!!!! YES. FAKING IT. They are faking their hair by gluing on extensions, they are faking their make up by tattooing it on their already pretty little faces, they are faking shhhhh body parts (did you know that some women enhance the size of their mammillas using plasticy impostors??? Ha! Who knew??), and they are even faking their eyelashes!! Eyelashes??? I had no idea!! Oh! And I almost forgot! Some women are even wearing girdles. I thought we did away with those breathless torture tricks in the 20's when Poiret discouraged women from being bound? No wonder why everyone is walking around looking so much more beautiful than me! I am wonderfied by all this madness! Far be it for me to judge...I can't exactly blame anyone who wants to make self improvements. I have considered doing this or that. This or that being a secret. But, there are downsides to almost all of them. Hair extensions could never be my thing. You see, those women are missing out on something wonderful and amazing. A man running his fingers through her clean, untangled, glue, clip, or weave free hair!! Ahhhh...I could never give up that loving gesture that makes me melt and fall apart into a helpless state of euphoria. No thank you. Then there is the surgically enhanced bust line. Don't ask me how or where I got this information, but did you know that you can't work out for six weeks after???? I don't think I could do that. Well, maybe I could... Tattooing make up??? I would do it if I got a call back from Survivor, since there is no way I could be on TV with no eyeliner. But, the eyelash extensions I could do without since I have been abundantly blessed with them.
I honestly do not have a problem with faking it. I think whatever makes you feel better about yourself and enhances your state of happiness is just fine with me. I am not one of those woman who turns up my nose at someone who does any of these things. My only concern is for our younger generation of girls, who look through the magazines and are tricked by the tainted images that they see. They do not have the wisdom that we do. The knowledge that those women are enhanced by all of these things as well as the super-technology that creates an even more illusionary vision. I am saddened by these young girls turning to extreme methods to try and measure up to the lies they see portrayed on those pages. As a mother of a teenage girl, I am often finding myself in conversation with her, building her up and encouraging her to not focus on the silly, superficial things. Beauty truly is only skin deep. It does not define you. Your character defines you. Your thoughts become you. When you focus too much on yourself, you lose that radiating glow that everyone recognizes as something different. Something beautifully different. That, my dears, is something that you can not fabricate. Try as some women do to fake it just long enough to get the guy, or get the job, eventually when the dust settles, it settles in her fine lines for everyone to see. I say, take time for yourself, but do not indulge in yourself. At least that is how I am teaching my daughters. I want to raise real women. Women who radiate kindness and grace through their actions and ability to treat others. Women who encourage peace and show mercy to the trodden down and heavy hearted souls of the world. Women who stand up for what is right, even when it is not well received. A beautiful woman is one who does not need to fake being real. She just is.
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